I was watching a YouTube video of a well known YouTube couple where they were asking each other candid questions about each other. One of the questions asked was, “What’s the biggest lie that your partner has ever told you?”. The husband answered the question and said, “That she will leave me.”

I literally gasped when I heard him say it and the wife looked taken aback even though she seemed to brush it off. You see, that same husband had been in a public scandal in the past where he had cheated on his wife with a younger woman and the wife had chosen to forgive him and move on with their marriage. That same husband had also had a gambling addiction in the past where he had squandered all their money that they had saved to buy land and make investments during his gambling days at the casino. Imagine forgiving a man and, after all that, he says that the biggest lie you ever told him was that you would leave him. The audacity!!

Let’s be clear: I’m not trying to shame the woman. I, myself, know how it feels to really love someone and, as women, we naturally have large, forgiving hearts and try to do what’s best for our families. Rather, I want us to see this situation from the perspective of men and how they sometimes don’t take our threats seriously.

It’s very common for women to threaten to leave their marriages when they are very angry at their husbands. Actually, most women do it. When you feel like your husband isn’t listening to you and you’re fed up with his continued nonsense, you might decide to let him know that you’re going to leave him and even pack your bags. I know a few women who have packed up their suitcase a few times to scare their husbands into thinking that they were leaving…and others that have actually left for a day or two before coming back home.

The problem with the threats is that they might scare your husband in the beginning, but after a while he will realize that they’re just threats and you don’t actually plan on going anywhere. Your husband will stop taking you seriously and he might even laugh about it with his boys. “She threatened to leave me again! [Insert laugh here]”.

One woman said that she had threatened to leave her husband so many times that one time when she made a threat, he calmly told her that he’d see her back home in the evening. Imagine that! Another woman said that her husband got so sick of her threats that he once told her that if she leaves, she should never step foot in their home again.

Men aren’t stupid. After a while, he’ll notice that you don’t actually follow through on your threats and you’ll be left looking like a fool. You need to find more effective ways to communicate with your husband and to make him take you more seriously. Something I’ve recently learned is that men are so used to women nagging that they get scared when a woman keeps quiet. Ironic, I know! If you’ve tried to get your point across to him several times and he still doesn’t get it, it might be time for you to keep quiet and just look at him as you go about with your life.

If you decide to leave him because you can’t take it anymore, then leave. However, never bring up leaving him or getting separated or divorced unless you actually mean it. If you keep playing those games, you will be the one left looking like a fool while nursing a broken heart.

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