“Why did he cheat on me? I did everything right…I gave him my all. Why did he do this to me?!” Unless you have dated men from outer space, you have either been cheated on before or you know someone who has been cheated on. I recently decided that I wanted to get closure from all the men that had cheated on me in the past but I am not the type to call my exes back – thank you, next! I had the brilliant idea to ask a few male friends and random strangers that were willing to share why they cheated on their partners.

Before we go any further, sit down and brace yourself for what you are about to read because some of the answers are definitely unexpected. Here are some of the reasons men gave for why they cheated:

“I cheated because she cheated on me. If you cheated on your man and he cheated back, doesn’t him cheating on you make it fair?” Well I am not a believer in the whole tit for tat thing but I think this would make sense depending on the situation. If the woman came clean and told you she cheated on you and you accept her apology and decide that you want to work on your relationship, cheating on her to make it fair would be wrong. But if he finds out on his own and decides to cheat on you sis, you made your bed so you must lie in it.

“I cheated because I felt she neglected me after the baby was born.” This made me sick to my stomach and I realized how selfish some men can be. I know women go through the most after having babies from postpartum depression to utmost fatigue and, in most cases, it’s hard enough for her to juggle all the tasks of motherhood while also trying to take care of herself and the family. Men really need to be more supportive and give their women grace to heal and less reasons to worry.

“I cheated because the sex had become boring.”  This guy told me that he felt that if he told his girlfriend that he found the sex boring it would hurt her feelings. “I loved everything else about her except the sex so I figured that if I got the sex from elsewhere I could keep my relationship with her. She later found out and called it off even after I explained how much I loved her.” Can someone explain to me how this kind of love works because I was confused?!

“I cheated because I wanted to explore my sexual fantasies.” I didn’t really get this at first until he explained it to me.“The girl I was dating was not willing to indulge my sexual fantasies.  She couldn’t even give me a BJ…I wanted more than she could offer. I am a very sexually active person and I needed to find someone that matched my needs.

“I cheated because my friends put me up to it.” This had me rolling on the floor. As we continued the conversation he told me that this happened while he was a university student. He said that his boys made fun of him for having one girlfriend and told him life was too short and that his girlfriend probably had a sugar daddy. He later discovered that she wasn’t cheating but it was too late for him and their relationship. He was devastated but she wouldn’t take him back.

“I cheated because I was tired of being in the relationship.” He went on to say, “I had had enough and I didn’t want to break up with her, so I just cheated on her to give her a reason to initiate the break up.” Please make it make sense.

There are various reasons why men cheat and honestly some are simply beyond our comprehension. The one thing that stood out to me though was how some of these scenarios could have been avoided if the communication was right. Why is it so hard for men to communicate?! The takeaway? Fear men!!!

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