It’s that time of year again and everybody is in a Valentines Day frenzy except me (and a few others)…yet I am single once again. It’s been almost three years and I have to admit, I low-key hate Valentine’s Day. Why do I hate Valentine’s Day? Well, on this day most of my friends try to call in and check on me to make sure I don’t feel lonely. Even those that haven’t spoken to me in a while keep posting me on their WhatsApp statuses – it’s crazy. I honestly appreciate the gesture but the fact that they make being single feel like a crime is what gets me. I chose to be single to give myself time to grow as an individual and heal from some nasty relationships (I really needed the break).

To be honest, it does hurt to go through Instagram and see all the nice things people are doing for their partners and feel nostalgic because I deserve that baby girl treatment too, right?! But, over the years I have learnt that I can enjoy my own company. Plus, I am a lot happier now than I was before and for me that’s a win. Being single on Valentine’s Day might not be easy for people that are really trying to find love or have just ended a relationship but here are a few tips that have worked for me:

1. Distract yourself. You can either find interesting activities to do on that day or you could focus on work instead. Once your mind is not constantly running on about what you could have had or what everyone else is doing, you can get through it. Besides, it’s just one day.
2. Attend singles mixers and dinners. It’s actually a fun and casual way to spend your evening. Usually, I attend these mixers to try and meet new people and also see if my soulmate could be somewhere in the crowd. It’s a lovely experience all together and I have seen some happy couples that met at such events.
3. Instead of comparing yourself to others, try manifesting what you want your next Valentine’s Day to look like. You can speak abundance and favor into your life and relationships. There’s a whole article on the Power Of Manifestation on our website and a free downloadable Manifestation Journal that you can use. Read the full article on manifestation here.
4. Give yourself permission to feel everything. Sis, you are human and it’s okay to cry and wish for a Valentine of your own but, again, don’t let one day ruin your progress. The temptation to go back to that toxic ex may arise but don’t give in. You’ve come too far to let yourself go down that rabbit hole.
5. Organize a day of self care. Pamper yourself, get your nails done, or maybe even eat at your favourite restaurant. Do something for yourself to make you feel special. A nice bubble bath and wine could also be a great way to close off the day. After all, you deserve the soft life whether you’re single or in a relationship.
6. Stay away from things that might trigger you such as social media. It’s important to know all the things that trigger all the negative emotions for you on this day. Take a social media break and try to connect in real life with the people that you love or you could even try talking to people that might be going through the same thing. It kinda helps to know that you’re not the only single person on Valentines Day and that it’s okay.

Valentine’s Day means different things to different people. To some, it’s the best day of the year to show their partner how much they love them while for others, it’s a day for self love and care. Then  there’s a category of people that just doesn’t care about the day all together.

Being single for whatever reason it might be is not a crime and shouldn’t be a measure of your worth. You are beautiful and, when the time is right, the man of your dreams will find you and, trust me, it will be worth the wait. And for those that are lucky to be pampered on Valentine’s Day, sis, enjoy yourself and make it worthwhile for your partner too. Happy Valentine’s Day lovelies!

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