When you consciously make the decision to date a married man, do you really know what you are getting yourself into? Sis, you literally walked yourself into side piece nation and you are making demands like you are the wife…ummm no. Put your expectations in check to avoid heartache and unnecessary drama. Men are very persuasive and will make you believe that you will have everything but here’s the reality of things:

1. You may always be a ghost.

He is not introducing you to his friends or family. You should know that you do not exist outside the hotel room or apartment he got you. If by any chance you are spotted in public together you are nothing more than his “business associate” or “friend”.

2.  He lied, he is not leaving his wife for you.

“He promised to leave her for me.” I hate to break it to you but he lied. He will go back home to his wife and children and play the perfect husband and father. He could be a loving dad and husband at home and he will protect that at all costs.

3. There’s no future with this man.

Beyond your weekend escapades and trips to Hawaii and Dubai, there’s nothing more. You’ll probably never have that big white wedding of your dreams or a family. He’s just there for the sex and to break the monotony of his life.

4. You are not the only one.

If a married man approaches you, chances are he could be a Casanova and you are just another title on his belt. It might not be the case for all men, but there is a very big possibility that you are not the only one.

5. His wife and children come first.

No matter how much he says he loves you, your needs will always come second to those of his wife and children. He will cancel your dinner plans to attend that school play without any regard for how you feel. You better be prepared for this.

6. You love the things he does for you and not him.

We know it’s about the money right? Being with him is not a lot of work since you don’t have to commit or anything like that. Rent is on time, that Louis Vuitton bag has been checked off your wishlist – what more could you want? The things he does for you may be the only reason you are with him but you might not actually want him.

7. You take what you can get.

His time is allocated for his career, family and friends and you just take what you can get: random afternoons, mornings after he hits the gym, and so on. You have no access to him whenever you need him and you’re supposed to deal with it.

Although, there are many downsides to dating a married man, there are some perks to it, especially if you are the non commitment type. You don’t have to worry about making him commit to the relationship and you both can walk out of it at any time. But, girl, do you really want to be a side piece? Remember that you are free to make whatever choices you want, but you must face the consequences of your choices.

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