Boundaries are very important and healthy in every relationship. As an individual it’s important not to lose yourself all in the name of love. Your individuality is the most beautiful thing you have and it might get muddled in the relationship if there are no boundaries.

Setting boundaries doesn’t mean that you don’t trust each other; it simply means that you are trying to build a healthy relationship with your partner.

Here are some boundaries that you can set in your relationship:

1. Personal space

Let your personal boundaries be known. Remember that you’re an individual before anything else. Don’t be afraid to let your partner know your personal preferences. For example, if you love to enjoy some alone time it shouldn’t be a problem.

2. Finances

Finances are a very tricky topic in relationships. Remember that you work hard to make your money so no one should feel entitled to it – even if they are your partner. It’s common for some people to borrow money from their partners and feel like they don’t have to pay it back because they feel that their significant other doesn’t need them to pay it back. This is why communication is important. You don’t want your partner to take you for granted. Make it known that when they borrow from you, you would like your money back.

In situations where you share a bank account with your partner. It’s important to set boundaries from the beginning. For example, you can make a stipulation that before a purchase of over a specific amount is made, the two of you would need to first discuss it.

3. Property

By property, we mean anything that you own – this could include cars, furniture, books, clothes, etc. Some people have a free for all policy when it comes to sharing their personal belongings with their partners and other people are more attached to their belongings and might not feel comfortable with sharing everything. You and your partner need to talk about how you feel about sharing different types of personal property that you both own. Sometimes not setting boundaries breeds disrespect and entitlement in a relationship.

4. Social Life

As part of a healthy relationship, people should have the freedom to sometimes socialize with their friends or family without their partner. Sometimes you just want to hang out with your girlfriends without having your man there. That’s okay! When a partner wants to control your social life and who you hang out with, it can cause friction in the relationship and, on a more serious note, could even lead to emotionally abusive situations.

These boundaries we listed above are a few that you could set in your relationship. Every relationship is unique and there’s no rule book to what you can and can’t do. Consider having healthy boundaries to help your relationship thrive.

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